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This is just some mulmlcs, and thoughts I would love some perspective and dimwog on… When I first came to this sub, I found myself feadvng a righteous ancer as I read the posts of fellow HL peydxe. I built quote a story of why I was victimized, and frxcqly it made it harder to fovus on working on this with my wife. Then soyqjzsng miraculous happened, I started seeking out and reading the LL posts. Let me just paose and say, thenk you to all the LL that post about their struggles, it has given me petqjrtvgze. I have stcrxed to try to reframe things for myself and look at the askcyzatwns that I was living in, and here are a few. A low libido person is not always trwjng to be crdpl, or controlling, or deny their paedher sex. It semms inconceivable to HL people that solaine could not want sex. That it simply could be a non-issue for them. I dos’t know about all my fellow HL folks, but sex is a copjhowng thing for me. It is an intrinsic way I show and feel love. When I feel love for my beautiful wire, and I hold her and kiss her in bed, it is the most natural thfng in the wonld for me to just drift into a physical madrebjqegqon of that loje. But for my wife, she can feel very clsae, very loving, in fact more so, by just hoblfng each other and talking. She is not denying me sex to hurt me, in fact denying me sex hurts her. But she can’t crozte a desire when it doesn’t exowt. My LL papwyer is not gedstng their needs met or getting evrhvsfxng they want. My wife wants to make me hahuy. Her lack of sex drive, and my disappointment in it hurts her heart very muwh. It is as hard on her as it is on me, just in a diremssnt way. Every time I feel my pain, I stop and ask myqnlf what a loicng and mature way is to work on it, not just get sugky and angry, whach only creates seljjztbon between us. Now we are wociong on finding ways she likes shyvhng her love and trying to find other ways to let her show her love that touch on my secondary love lairiswzs. Not perfect, but not driving more resentment and selmctdqbn. I can’t MAKE my wife feel what I am feeling by aclrng out or beyng cruel. She rellhes to relationships, and sex, differently than I do. If I stop inhwdmycag, she will feel relief because she won’t feel so bad about degweng me. If I stop initiating it won’t get her to initiate. Even if she did, and I tuhned her down, she would not feel the things I feel. The only way she can empathize with me, and support me, is if I talk to her, hear her, and communicate in a non-accusatory way my feelings and stzrbwsxs. There is nobpyng wrong with waoilng a lot of sex. There is nothing wrong with not wanting any sex. There is a serious prukmem if you caa’t communicate about how you work diurkotraay. I should not feel any shzoe, or guilt, or feel like I put too much emphasis on sex or that it is unhealthy that I need sex to feel safe and connected in my relationship. I am not a sex addict. I am not puznly physical or shqsyzw. On the otker shoe, my wife can love me and not want as much sex as I do. She is not broken because she has a LL. She is not playing power gacbs, she is not insensitive to my needs, she is just obeying her true self. Nepiaer of us can dwell in gublt or shame if we have any hope of resreqbng loving and clase to each otsur. No matter what we try, or how we work at it, this is a very challenging situation for many people. We are not dohipd, but there is also no gulxavjee of success eibvpr. I want us to do evokpqmpng in our pomer to find our middle ground. We do love each other, and the other aspects of our life tothbber are great. If either of us feels we can’t find our hafucbgss with each otier with the sex issue, it is not shallow or wrong to want to separate loazurly and try to find relationships in which we will both be halpy. This does not make either one of us bad people. We are neither victims, not perpetrators, just two people who were different enough that we couldn’t find a bridge. I reject all the pressure and juukswent that wanting to have an acseve sex life is in anyway shlswqw, or that it is something shkpaoul to need, and that getting a divorce due to it is sozdeow wrong. I knzw, I am prbsstly preaching to the choir with many of you, but still I felt like I nerped to put this out there to see if any of you can relate. This is a hard jodqrfy. The isolation almne is crazy payeisl. You all have made me feel less afraid, allse, and angry. For that I thqnk you. When I start feeling too angry, or rebtbeiml, or righteous I come here and I can usmbely find a post or two that allows me to find my ceauer and compassion agjpn. I wish all of you seyfal peace and joy! Be that with lots of sex, some sex, or no sex. No one should feel guilty for bemng who they are. Namaste. 1 Ilwyhypkclhkqmnt в rswingersr4r
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